Note: Psycho...not "Ex-Dumbass."
As we all know, I've been unlucky when it comes to relationships (that is, until a little over a year ago), but I have an update on one of my past persons.
I never truly "dated" this person. We went on one date, and enough red flags were sent up that I had no interest in pursuing date number two. My red flags were warranted.
Quick rundown:
Met guy on an outdoors website.
Went to dinner with the guy.
Guy talked about his "tenants" and "work" at dinner.
Guy went home after dinner.
Talked to guy online sporadically while he was [supposedly] out of town for work.
Guy asks me one day to forgive him for something prior to telling me what it was.
I decline.
He said he "has to come clean" as his friends and members of AOC (see below) "found him out."
Guy proceeds.....his "tenants" are his wife and child. Oh, and he's had a girlfriend the past two years that also doesn't know he's married.
I point out guy cheated not once...but twice and to never contact me again.
The End. Or so I thought.....
I get a random e-mail the other day inviting me to the Atlanta Outdoors Adventure Club or something like that. The person had gotten my information off the Atlanta Outdoors Club website. I semi-recognized the e-mail address "Dante..........@gmail.com," but I remembered when he had last contacted me, he used a fake name "Dante - fakename- @gmail.com."
I e-mailed back, "Is this Dante from AOC?" and then I immediately e-mailed AOC and said, "hey, this jackass is stealing information from your website and contacting everyone with unsolicited e-mails. FYI, this is the guy that cheated on his wife and kid with someone from AOC for two years."
Lo and behold, I receive a response from a friend of mine from North Georgia. She "knows" this guy and tells me his account has been frozen. I tell her my tale, and she briefly tells me her side. The "girlfriend" had no idea he was married. "Dante" installed a keystroke program on her computer and even started stalking her. *scary*
Friend tells me the guy gave her the heebie jeebies the first time she met him.
Who knows what this guy is doing now. He's started his own outdoors club and probably has people worshipping him or saying, "he's such a great guy" without knowing his disgusting past.
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Tuesday, June 3, 2008
Why Men and Women are Different.
Now wouldn't I be a billionaire if I actually knew the reasoning behind my subject, "Why Men and Women are Different?" Sadly, I don't know the reasoning behind it. I was sitting here at work. The phones are dead. I've busy-worked myself into nonexistence, and some conversations I've had with guy friends and their imploring me to hit on this topic seemed plausible now. So what I will do is touch on various things I've heard and read: both from normal persons, psychology, self-help books, etc. and we'll all be just as confused as we were to begin with.
Where should I start?
"Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus."
Now, I've never read this book, but taken in the metaphoric sense, it indicates men are more "aggressive" and "warring," and women are more "submissive" and "loving." Okay, well some of that could, indeed, be true. We all know the chemistry behind testosterone and estrogen. We know that a woman with too much testosterone becomes "manly," and a man with too much estrogen becomes "womanly." So there's one key difference that can be used to support why we're different: basic chemistry.
"Men are logical and thinkers; women are emotional and feelers."
This is not necessarily true. Apparently whomever came up with this assessment has never heard of Jung. Just with anything else in life, this can be applied to various groups. I know men who are far more emotional than they are logical and women that are far more logical than emotional. I, for example, am classified as a logical mastermind (according to psychological tests) as opposed to being a "Feeler."
"There can be ten women and ten men in a bar. ANY of the women in the bar regardless of looks, etc. can easily find a guy to take home. The guys in the bar, on the other hand, have a more difficult time regardless of looks, etc."
I have heard this more times than not, and it's true. Why is it true? I don't know. Are women and men are bars for two different reasons? There are women that go to bars not to pick up men...but do. There are men at bars there to pick up women...and don't. Now, I could be crude and say what my friends say, "it's because then men think with their dicks." No, that's not the reason. I'm sure there's some primal underlying reasoning here, but I can't objectively define it.
"Chicks before dicks" and "Bros before Hos."
I have heard this time and time again, and you know what? it's pretty true. How many times have you been involved in a relationship with someone who is wholly jealous of your friends. He/she always thinks that your friends of your opposite sex want to "hook up" and, sometimes, they can't believe that your friends of the opposite sex and you have NO romantic history or any romantic interest. Then comes the jealousy that you're spending too much time with them, blah blah blah. Ugh - it drives me nuts. I have been in a relationship with someone who had NO friends (good indication something's odd). When we dated, he was always jealous that I was spending time with Lesley or any of my friends - no matter what sex. When we broke up (he was a horribly mean person), I got the text of "We can still be friends" or something along those lines. No...we can't. Anyways, how many times have you or a friend of yours been involved in a relationship where suddenly, you lose contact with your friends? That's a big red flag for me. I am friends with guys that, when they start dating a girl, will suddenly lose all contact - no e-mails, calls, no plans, nothing. Reason: New girlfriend is jealous. Jealous of what?
It also intrigues me if you're a guy in a new relationship with a girl, and her male friends suddenly don't like you - but they don't know you. Or you're a girl, in a new relationship with a guy, and his female friends suddenly don't like you - but they don't know you. What the heck?
The "chicks before dicks" and "bros before hos" will always apply. I have a group of friends that are my second family, and that's not going to change.
My summary: Duh. Men and women are different. If there was a scientific and objective reason as to "why?" then what fun would that be? Just keep in mind that no matter what sex, each person is different from the other. Oh, and this blog was completely at random and written without any provocation - lol.
Where should I start?
"Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus."
Now, I've never read this book, but taken in the metaphoric sense, it indicates men are more "aggressive" and "warring," and women are more "submissive" and "loving." Okay, well some of that could, indeed, be true. We all know the chemistry behind testosterone and estrogen. We know that a woman with too much testosterone becomes "manly," and a man with too much estrogen becomes "womanly." So there's one key difference that can be used to support why we're different: basic chemistry.
"Men are logical and thinkers; women are emotional and feelers."
This is not necessarily true. Apparently whomever came up with this assessment has never heard of Jung. Just with anything else in life, this can be applied to various groups. I know men who are far more emotional than they are logical and women that are far more logical than emotional. I, for example, am classified as a logical mastermind (according to psychological tests) as opposed to being a "Feeler."
"There can be ten women and ten men in a bar. ANY of the women in the bar regardless of looks, etc. can easily find a guy to take home. The guys in the bar, on the other hand, have a more difficult time regardless of looks, etc."
I have heard this more times than not, and it's true. Why is it true? I don't know. Are women and men are bars for two different reasons? There are women that go to bars not to pick up men...but do. There are men at bars there to pick up women...and don't. Now, I could be crude and say what my friends say, "it's because then men think with their dicks." No, that's not the reason. I'm sure there's some primal underlying reasoning here, but I can't objectively define it.
"Chicks before dicks" and "Bros before Hos."
I have heard this time and time again, and you know what? it's pretty true. How many times have you been involved in a relationship with someone who is wholly jealous of your friends. He/she always thinks that your friends of your opposite sex want to "hook up" and, sometimes, they can't believe that your friends of the opposite sex and you have NO romantic history or any romantic interest. Then comes the jealousy that you're spending too much time with them, blah blah blah. Ugh - it drives me nuts. I have been in a relationship with someone who had NO friends (good indication something's odd). When we dated, he was always jealous that I was spending time with Lesley or any of my friends - no matter what sex. When we broke up (he was a horribly mean person), I got the text of "We can still be friends" or something along those lines. No...we can't. Anyways, how many times have you or a friend of yours been involved in a relationship where suddenly, you lose contact with your friends? That's a big red flag for me. I am friends with guys that, when they start dating a girl, will suddenly lose all contact - no e-mails, calls, no plans, nothing. Reason: New girlfriend is jealous. Jealous of what?
It also intrigues me if you're a guy in a new relationship with a girl, and her male friends suddenly don't like you - but they don't know you. Or you're a girl, in a new relationship with a guy, and his female friends suddenly don't like you - but they don't know you. What the heck?
The "chicks before dicks" and "bros before hos" will always apply. I have a group of friends that are my second family, and that's not going to change.
My summary: Duh. Men and women are different. If there was a scientific and objective reason as to "why?" then what fun would that be? Just keep in mind that no matter what sex, each person is different from the other. Oh, and this blog was completely at random and written without any provocation - lol.
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