If any of you that read this...I don't even know who does except maybe one or two people...and you're from the 80s - you got that movie reference. I had to blog on this topic for a second. It's not "friendship" or "why friends are important" as I have done in the past. It's my mother's stance on calling our signifigant others...."friends." It's almost like a children's book, "Shelby's special friend." It sounds more like something you'd get as a handout in Sex Ed in middle school.
Kim, my brother's fiancée, didn't move past the "friend" status until they were engaged. Every time my mother talks about us to family or friends, she will say, "Shelby and her friend" or "Shane, and his friend, Kim." It makes it sound like we're gay or socially retarded that we can't have a significant other. Maybe it's because my mother doesn't like the labels like I don't: "boyfriend" and "girlfriend." Who knows?
FFR: When my mom says, "Shelby's friend" she actually means "the person Shelby is dating" and not that I've reached puberty.
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Yeah...well, you remember how my grandmother kept calling Robert my "special friend" for a very long time. It's ridiculous. When he met her, I told him I was going to make a point of introducing him as my boyfriend (this was last July). He actually made the point himself, and she still didn't get it. It's unbelievably irritating, I agree. But eventually, we got engaged, so Robert was able to graduate to "fiancé." How one makes the leap from "special friend" to "fiancé" in a single conversation is a marvel to me. *shrug*
~A
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